Storytelling: Changing the Narrative

Our memories of past events come from “narrative truth,” rather than “historical truth.” We remember the stories we tell ourselves about what happened, not what actually happened.


A couple of blogs ago, I talked about the five options our clients (and we) have when confronted with a problem. We can:

  • Solve the problem in whole or part
  • Change the way we think and feel about it
  • Radically accept it
  • Make ourselves miserable
  • Make the situation worse

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When A Client Says – “It’s So Unfair!”

Radical acceptance is not easy. Getting hit by a drunk driver is not fair. Mental illness is not fair. Experiencing trauma is not fair. But only our clients can solve the problems that result.

Mature man with depressed look

Clients come to me with mental illness or a history of trauma. Most of my clients have both.  New clients often will say “it’s so unfair.”  What they really are saying is “I shouldn’t have to deal with this.  I don’t want to be here.  Why me?  Why now?”  My response is always the same.  “You may not have caused the problem but you are the only one who can solve it.”

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